I'll admit, I was scared before I actually read but really appreciate the balanced approach here.

That said, I'm a software engineer who worked as female until I was 28, then went full socially and medically male and have been passing as such for just over 3 years. Maybe it's a product of my work being new-age sedentary and me not growing up internalizing that I need to be masculine to begin with, but I am treated better at work now and taken more seriously. Sure, I'm no longer the one getting attention at the company dinner, but now I have boring psychological safety the other hundreds of work days per year. Personally, that's been more than worth it.

If I've learned anything, there's a lot of grass is always greener stuff. But from my experience and understanding, women still have more to endure.